busy body
Posted on May 14th, 2008
by 
maze
maze
I never leave well enough alone and I don't leave sleeping dogs alone either. I'm a pain in the ass because I love to rattle cages. But I also know that if I love to dish it out, I better be able to take it too. Bullies are weird in a way because they generally can't handle being called out on their assholeness. Unfortunately it doesn't happen often because most folks are too afraid of them to begin with so they usually allow them another day to bully someone. I guess as a kid I was lucky because I didn't get bullied all that much, but when I did, I have to admit, that it scared the crap out of me. My first choice was always to avoid them and my second choice was to stand up to them. When people call me on my busy body behavior I usually respect them unless of course it has something to do with hypocrisy or injustice. I won't be nasty or snarly, but I will stand my ground. I'm sorry, I'm butting in because....and I will state my case. Now here's a weird situation that happened not too long ago that rattled my cage. Me and the car in front of me are pulling into the local convenient store making a left hand turn from the middle lane. The guy in front of me scoots into the convenient parking lot and proceeds as though he's going to go around and park to the side of the store. I then proceed to pull into the parking lot and this guy that was in front of me suddenly stops and starts backing up so he can back in to one of the parking spaces in front of the store. I honk my horn. He continues to keep backing up. I stop with my ass end hanging out into the main thoroughfare. I hold up traffic for a few seconds while he backs in and then I pull around to the side of the store. I walk into the store and this guy immediately starts bad mouthing me. I thought...holy fuck, I don't need this shit tonight...all I want is a beer and a blog. Now mind you, this tall lanky guy is probably about 30 years younger than me. At first I just kept my mouth shut as I walked to the cooler. But he kept on with his tirade. After I got my beer and he was standing in one of the aisles I said to him....a good driver knows what's going on in front and in back of him at all times. If you were with me in vietnam, your name would be on a fucking wall right now. When I got back in my car, I noticed my hands were shaking. That damn kid upset me a little bit. Shame on me.
sam the sham and the pharaohs 'wooly bully'
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QaR
August 2008 
Interesting. Thought your comeback to him was excellent. But anyway, as you say, on another level, why do normal people such as you or me or the next person reading this comment let ourselves be rattled by some some ignorant blowhard? Odd. I haven't written the blog I'm planning to write today, but it's going to be about losing my temper big time. Hmm. I feel bad about it when I do it, because it involves doing what the Buddhists call “identifying” with my emotional reactions. But shit, you know? Life has this way of entrancing us, and it's real bumpy and scratchy.
You may have lost your temper, but you did it so elegantly! Hoo ha for you. Guess busybody-ness must run in our Gaian family, because I'm with you…maybe stating the case for good sense/thoughtfulness/manners/truth, justice and the American way (got a little carried away there!) will get us into trouble, but we can't just keep our mouths shut! Somebody has to speak up.
Love to you!
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hmmm… I'm butting in here because I rather applaude your assesment of the situation at hand..firstly, keeping the main priority in plain wiev, as in wanting & beer & a blog is to be saluted imho…damned be if a sorry excuse for a bleepin moron lets one loose sight of the more important things in life.. secondly, not taking the bait is likely to have rattled his cage more than bying into his drama & if not, I believe your reply to have left a rather distinguished imprint.. walking your talk & being a 'good driver' yourself is in my mind the high road to be taken when standing up to bullies… for what its worth, my pocket philosophy on the subject…. - bullies in general: Always approach a bully with an open, brave & compassionate heart; remember: the bully is very very frightened. Not so much of you.
Of what's inside the bully… tara <3